I recently celebrated my 23rd birthday, which consisted of lovely, thoughtful housemates, my mum being lovely and thoughtful (as per), going to a local vegan cafe with family and eating vegan cake, and a really great night out with friends in Southampton to see Skream, which is what I’m recapping in this post! I only have the digital photos as I have some film I haven’t developed yet, but I actually remembered to take photos this year, so go me!
We’re nearing the end of Mental Health Awareness Week 2017, and I’m finding myself with a day off, enough time for a breather, to take my day slowly and practice some mindfulness. The theme for this year is ‘Surviving or Thriving?’ and I’ve been thinking about that this past week. What does it take to be thriving, and how do I know whether I’m surviving (see: coping) or not?
May I present, my ultimate list of happy.
I’m working a lot and limited on free time at the moment, which makes everything feel like a drag. I’m tired, and I don’t have time to do the things that make me me. There is one silver lining, which is when I don’t get to do the things I like to do, it makes me realise how much I really appreciate the little things. For times when stress levels get high, I’m constantly sleep-deprived, and all I really want to do is go on a walk in the sunshine, listen to my favourite music and sit still, here’s a positive list of very important things (which I say are little things, but are really a very BIG DEAL) that make me happy, and that I am grateful for:
1. Blue skies and sunshine
2. Walks in the woods
3. When my dog greets me when I visit home
4. When friends ask how I am, how I really am, with the intention of wanting to know (because they care) rather than as a pleasantry
5. My friends, as a whole, because I love them very much
6. People who are enthusiastic to teach
7. The amount of good music that exists
8. Vego chocolate
9. Activists, and people who give up their time and energy to protect and fight for what’s important
10. Vegan pizza
Ghosting, via urbandictionary:
The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just “get the hint” and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested. Ghosting is not specific to a certain gender and is closely related to the subject’s maturity and communication skills. Many attempt to justify ghosting as a way to cease dating the ghostee without hurting their feelings, but it in fact proves the subject is thinking more of themselves, as ghosting often creates more confusion for the ghostee than if the subject kindly stated how he/she feels.
See: running away, ceasing all communication, a lack of clarity, warmth in one message and an absence of anything the next. Calls, messages (am I being too pushy? clingy?), a little on edge. See: coward.
It was cold, and I was wearing Autumn’s long, warm cardigan over the top of my bomber jacket, and thin, black dress with tights with prints of moons and black cats. I had white, zombie eyes and black and red cat ears in attempts of dressing as a bat (a not very scary one). Everyone was electric. Me and Autumn had spent the day in London at an animal rights march, and now we were buzzed to the sound of good music you don’t get to hear in clubs, in the dark with zombies and vampires and witches.